Couples Therapy
Are You and Your Partner at an Impasse in Your Relationship or Marriage?
Perhaps you and your partner are struggling to get along, and you are hoping that couples counseling will help you heal and reconnect.
For instance, do you sometimes feel...
ignored, misunderstood, or underappreciated?
lonely, hopeless, or powerless to change your situation?
emotionally gridlocked, unfulfilled, or invalidated?
Maybe it is impossible to have important conversations with your partner or spouse without them spiraling into arguments. Or perhaps working, raising children, or just navigating life has all but killed the romance between you.
Relationship Issues Can Happen on Many Levels
Whether you are married or in a committed relationship, even the happiest, healthiest couples can run into challenges. That means you do not have to be in crisis in order to benefit from couples therapy. Perhaps you and your partner simply feel disconnected, and neither of you quite understands why.
It is as if life just somehow built a wall between you when you were not looking.
Maybe changes in your body or appearance, as you are aging, are affecting your self-image and creating intimacy issues. Or perhaps you are in the midst of a crisis—one borne out of trauma, an act of betrayal, or another form of emotional wounding that jeopardizes your relationship.
Regardless of your situation, if you are in a place of pain and want support for saving your relationship or marriage, couples therapy can help. Working with a therapist can offer you and your partner the insight and tools needed to heal, repair your relationship, and grow—both as a couple and as individuals.
Even the Happiest Couples Will Eventually Face Challenges
Despite what romantic movies and pop culture would like you to believe, sharing your life with another person is not always easy. Even happy couples have trouble communicating and connecting. Sometimes, one partner feels less heard, supported, or loved by the other—other times, a partner experiences too much pressure to “do more.” Eventually, everyone questions some aspect of their relationship.
Unfortunately, social and cultural forces often create unrealistic expectations for marriages and relationships that can place a lot of stress on couples. Television and movies create convincing fictional narratives of love that are effortless and fairytale-like. Social media sows self-doubt, disappointment, and a competitive need to keep up with the Joneses—even in our relational lives.
Basically, we are conditioned to believe that being in a relationship without conflict is the mark of perfection. But the truth is: relationships take work and sometimes partners simply are not in agreement.
Why So Many of Us Fall into Relationship Ruts
When you think about it, hardly anyone—not us, our parents, our educators—has ever been taught how to cultivate and maintain healthy relationships. And given that the only relationship models we have to fall back on are those of our parents, we just do the best we can despite lacking good direction.
It is no wonder that, sometimes, we do run into challenges in our relationships. And that is why couples therapy can be so insightful.
I am an experienced couples therapist, and teaming up with me can help you identify what is really going on behind the scenes of your relationship so you can learn to communicate, navigate conflict, and simply be at peace with each other.
Couples Counseling Can Heal and Enhance Your Relationship in Powerful Ways
To get to the root of what is creating discord or tension in your relationship, we will first discuss a few things: What are your primary concerns? When did these issues become a problem and what has been the impact? In what ways are you hoping counseling will help your marriage or relationship?
Once I understand what is transpiring beneath the surface of your relationship, I can start creating a strategy for restoring the passion and connection you once shared. We may begin therapy by exploring your personal histories, including any relational wounding—such as betrayal, rejection, or abuse—that is creating problems in your relationship now.
As we explore the past, you and your partner can learn to…
cultivate a shared sense of understanding, empathy, and compassion toward one another in the present.
navigate everyday stressors like work, finances, parenting, and the distracting impact of technology.
rebuild trust and increase intimacy.
improve communication skills so that you will finally be able to resolve conflict without becoming defensive, critical, or resentful.
When it comes to tackling problems in a relationship, friends and family are often our first stop for support. However, despite their noble intentions, the people who love us the most usually have natural biases that can compromise even the best advice.
Thankfully, working with a couples therapist gives you an impartial ally with an objective point of view who can help you communicate and resolve long-standing issues effectively. Therapy sessions with me will allow you to fully express yourself, be heard, and discover what you need to be happier and more fulfilled.
And because this all happens in a safe, neutral space, you do not have to worry about conversations boiling over into arguments.
What to Expect in Personalized Therapy Sessions
Couples counseling sessions are tailored to your needs and equip you with skills and insight that can enable you to better communicate, overcome conflict, and empathize with each other. And, as you work together, you can grow as individuals, restore your intimate connection, and become more like the couple you want to be.
Effective Treatment Approaches For Couples Therapy
Since it is important to create a treatment plan fitting for each couple’s situation, I draw from a range of effective, evidence-based therapeutic methods. Sometimes, I may help you work on personal dynamics—how you see yourself, what makes you feel valued, and how you each show up in your relationship. Other times, I may have us focus on repairing your relationship and reconciling incompatibilities.
Whatever you are struggling with, couples counseling can help you heal and improve your relationship or marriage in numerous ways. Everything evolves—our minds, our bodies, the world in general—and certainly our relationships. The key to thriving is learning how to adapt to these changes.
With the help of couples therapy, you can grow, heal, and navigate your relationships on every level with greater ease and confidence.
Perhaps You’re Considering Couples Counseling, but Still Have Some Concerns...
I feel that seeing a marriage counselor is admitting we have failed as a couple.
If you are reading this page, looking for answers and hope for the future, you most certainly have not failed your relationship. You are actually demonstrating an incredible amount of care, courage, and resilience that we can build upon in sessions. So please do not look at yourselves in a negative way. You have already taken an important step in healing and restoring the connection you once had.
Does couples counseling even work?
Absolutely! Merely working with someone who has no agenda other than helping you repair your relationship and feel better about your future can be immensely empowering. And it does not take forever. The awareness and skills you gain from therapy can help you overcome future problems on your own, potentially safeguarding your relationship on every level.
I am not sure if I want to invest in working with a couples therapist.
Think about it like this: therapy is a temporary investment in your overall well-being that can last a lifetime. Knowing yourself, how your partner works, and what you need to be happy is invaluable—and that is what couples therapy can facilitate. Rather than just hoping things will get better on their own, you can learn to make practical changes that have an enduring impact on yourselves and your relationship.
A more fulfilling relationship is possible!
If you are tired of arguing, being hurt, or feeling disconnected in your relationship or marriage, couples therapy can open up possibilities. Please feel free to contact me if you would like to know more about how I can help you heal and enhance your connection with your partner.
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